How to life (Teenagers/Adults)

When you are young person, you only think on many trivial things like: videogames, what clothes you want to buy or use for a special party, event or for a dating with your boyfriend/girlfriend or just with friends. Sometimes teenagers are very "bipolar" with their feelings and physiological changes, but we need to know how to control their actions and toughts,  with security and respect, considering that is a normal process how all the humans passed it and continues until the last day of our lives on this planet earth.

But is a complicated situation, because the behaviour of some teenagers nowadays is a mess, and here involve too what kind of ideas have the adults about teenagers. Is not good.. Isn´t it?.

Adults most of the time they only pay attention in the wrong actions, they always said their own ideologies and it dosen´t matter other opinions for exmaple: 

-"You need to be very talent in something and explode"

-"Be someone important in the life"

-"Earn a lot of money"

-"Have many titles, acknowledgments in the school"

-"Have a good job and family in the future" 

Obviously there are exceptions, not all are like this (don´t be angry, nobody is perfect)  but usually these is not possible because some teenagers: first: don´t have the sinews for continue the school, second: have family problems or more simple don´t have any motivation for doing wherever they want, they are being stuck on a treadmill with any goal in their future. Where is the real problem here?  They even know how to communicate with their own family, don´t feel very comfortable at home so they search another kind of help and support in friends, boyfriends / girlfriends or in addictions, so what we need to make a change? It´s a complicated answer.

I think based on my life, the most important things is have a good communication with other people, because the real education started at home before the school, and then all the work that you do in your life is really needed have a clear vision about frindships, realtionships, study and work goals for doing it all the time. Sometimes it is going to be very difficult and you are going to meet a lot of different people for good or bad but any situation leaves new knowledge, experiences. We need to take advantage of it and learn more extraordinary  things.

For me my real support is always my family and my own optimis. Every morning I say some words for motivation and think... why I am doing this...? what  I need to do for being a good Doctor?.. How can I help others with my knowledge?... and maybe I can´t know all the answers,  because I am only a simple student of Medicine with 18 years old, I´m a little beginner in the world of adults, I don´t have a lot of experiences but I hope to be a good person in our Mexican society. I really hope my writing has helped you to think a little about your present and has made you meditate on these issues.

Thank you so much.. Have a nice day everyone! 

REAL LIFE OR GOOD LIFE?

In our life we pass for a lot of experiences, we have too many responsabilities and we met a lot of people,that is a real life,in in what moment it turns to a good life? 

The answer is on you. when you have the desition to change  the real life to a good life without a exteremly change or in a bad way.  If you take a bad way to have a good life you can lose the field and start being unethical,irresposible,and finish with nothing important in your life. 

I decided to talk about this topic because in my major is necesary understand both parts to start being succesful.

For me  real life means that you understand the meaning of what you are doing, have your feet in the field and know that we have rights but at the same way responsabilities,if you know this you can start to figure how can be a good life for you and keep in an equilibrium.

The moment when real life and good life match is that you know that there are responsabilities but you can have fun too; maybe in my case I have the responsabilitie for my exams or my homework  but at the same time I have  a party, so I decided that if I want a good life I just have to leave my homework and then go to the party,and if I want a real life I leave the party and just keep at home doing homework but here is when I choose the balance and I decided to do my homework and when I have an advance or finish I can go to the party. 

If we decide to go just in one extreme we´ll have a lot of problems because we´ll lose our friends, or family or maybe we could have friends but not a major not our own things as a result of our effort. 

In my opinion I can tell you that it´s important and necesary the balance, we must to know how to recognise in which place of both we are. It´s just for our help, sometimes nobody tell us what could be a good way or good roadbut this that i wrote could be a little advice for you. 

In my case i decided to hace a balnce, today I have a party but i know that at the same time i have exams but that doesn´t mean that i won´t go to the party, i studied yesterday  so i have the chance to have a good day. 

Just don´t forget how you can decide the equilibrium, just put in a balance the good things and bad things that could bring you what you decide. 

Some tips for being happy

In my opinion, this is a good suggestion topic, several topics relative with it such as: sadness, depressed, enjoying, etc. have different conceptions for people. One of the most important is being happy. Since the kid that savors a candy in the park, old man enjoining his free days, until the robber that enjoys the fact.

So for people that in certaint point wants to be fine with oneself,I want to share you my three advice for being happy according to my life experience:

1.- Knowing yourself and be in peace with yourself. This is a complex situation, because exist people that ignore what about of their life, and it could be a signal of depression thatmust be analyzed by an expert or simply crying, this method is successful for knowing yourself.

2.- Free time. When you are independent, you are responsible for yourself paying a rent, saving money for a travel in abroad, saving money for studying a Master Degree or Diploma, making (or buying) your own food, etc., you really will worth the free time for yourself that it's very exciting when you are enjoying it, due to you are not feel under pressure, your mind rest.

3.- Be humble. Sometimes people falls in arrogance when they feels 'realiced' and they felt good when share their successful experience only for giving attention for own selves and not for giving a real advice.

Remember that you and me don't think the same thoughts about happiness, so remember that exist people that feels bad in mind, maybe by situations that we don't know but it's necessary understand them, listening to them.

Which is the most important ingredient for happiness?

This topic is very subjective. Everyone has a different opinion about what happiness is and what the important things are to obtain it or feel it.

Personally I think that there is nothing like have peace of mind, feel good inside and demonstrated in the outside.

Happiness is enjoy life as it come, with all the up’s and down’s, trying to see the Brightside or the silver lining of everything that happened in life.

I mean, I know we all have problems some more difficult than others but we need to have the strength to passed for it.

I think that we need to accept our mistakes and live in the present so in that way, we can create our future in a constructive form.

Even if I do not practice a lot of sports, it is a good way to add happiness in life and also in our body but depends on the people.

Money is important obviously but I do not think that we need it to feel happy.

Like I said in the beginning, this subject is very subjective so some of you could be disagree with this information but at the end, all the matters is be happy as you want to.

Happiness

What is happiness? How we can be happy? I think this is one of the most ancient questions that humans had made ... And I think is just a part of living, I think that sometimes you feel other emotions, just like in the animated movie Inside out in spanish "Intensamente" we, as a human beings are very complex, and we experienced a lot of situations and is in our power to choose what to do with them. I like to think that happiness is the journey and not a thing, I choose to think that in every minute of our life we can find happiness, and if not, you have to decide what to do... 

One of my principles is that a first thing you have to do in every situation or problem is to think if that problem has a solution if that is true you have o should work in order to solve it, to change it, if not you need to accept the situation, I think that this aproach allows us to deal with important things that could make you feel nervous, anxious, angry, etc.

The next thing is to learn to enjoy every situation, because of every situation you learn something, I remember one time in a test, I don't remember what subject, but it was in college, and as usual I was making noises with my pencil and my foot, and a very good friend of mine almost yelling at me, ask me not to do noises, and I say to him "enjoy it" , and its not that I'm not nervous or afraid in a test, but you have to find a way to enjoy every minute, maybe is also that I study how to resolve tests, but I take responsability of myself and if I failed a test is mainly because I did'nt prepare well, no just because a test was difficult.

So, if I have to give a advice, I should tell you that in this world, in which you can't control anything but you, you have to create your happiness, change the things that you can and accept what you can't... 

Finally I share with you this image with a lot of advices that I try to follow myself...  

Happiness

What do we think when we hear happiness? 

For a lot of people happiness means money, and for you what it means? 

In my opinion i can say that happiness mean to be confortable and quite, feeling absolut complete with yourself and be sure that your life is in the way that you want. 

My father some day told me that "no one it´s going to do what you don´t do for yourself" and that it´s right because the happines depends on you! 

In my case the thing that make me the happiest person is my major, I´m a student from the UNAM of forensic science. I fell in love when I started my first year and now I´m sure that is one of the best decision that I  chose.

Another thing that give me happines is to have the oportunity to help people in this major, or even that i don´t finish yet i could make a difference since that I´m studying. 

I really love doing sports or exercise, it´s not necessary go to the gym or pay for a place,  in the UNAM you can take swimming clases, that is the option that I decided. 

Like you can notice not always you need money, i know that is esencial for our basic necessities but it´s not all in our lifes, there are more important things. 

 depends on you, in your vision, what is the most important things, what is you list of  5 most important things in your life? 

I recommend you that you´ll do a list of things that are the principals for you to be happy and then you concentrate in make a change to be happy for your entire life. 

Singing

Today I'm going to talk about Opera and singing... At home, dad had a particular taste in music, classic and folclor so we grew up with weird combinations, I remember dad and I washing our car while we listen piano concerts, horn concerts, etc., and when we watched TV but mainly programs about classic music, opera and thing like that, and one of my favorites and the one that I remember from my childhood is this one, from a opera named "The Tales of Hoffman" and is known as the Doll song, because in the plot is a doll whose creator think about her as a real person and try to hide that is a doll... enjoy it.

I didn't want to be a singer, I sang at home and play with my sisters to sing like a band or a pop group, but I don't know why in middle school I sang a solo in front of my whole class, and some people congratulated me, when I started high school I had to take an Art class and I had heard that there was a choir and found the classroom and make an audition! Was weird because I had never sang that way, I had to repeat the sounds that I had listen before in a particular way, no just sing like you were home,  and the teacher play the scales up and up an up until you can barely reached it... and I made it... get into the choir... From that moment until I finished high school I went to music classess twice a week, learnt pieces in different languages (italian, english, german, french) and sang in front a lot of people in the school auditorium and in Sala Netzahualcoyotl in Ciudad Universitaria.

To be part of a choir is very interesting and also difficult, first of all a choir is organized by voices, high and low pitch for males and females, you have to be focus in your melodic line, be aware of the signs that the conductor make, slow/fast/low/soft/strong... when you have to sing, when you don't, the discipline because when the other voices are rehearsing you have to be quiet... When you rehearse with an orchestra you understand the difficulties of the musicians work, but for a singer is sometimes harder, because a instrument player have references in the instrument and for a singer the instrument is the body, the throat, the vocal cords, the lungs, the diaphragm, from heat to toes, but you have to learn how to work to produce the sounds required.

Being in a choir give me a lot of opportunities, to get to know a different kind of music, languages, people and a few of my classmates studied music as a major and now they work for different choirs and choral groups and I love opera.

Opera is like a movie or a play but the star is THE MUSIC which includes the orchestra and the singers, the instrumental parts, give us the idea of the feelings, the situation, the plot, and completes with the singers and sometimes choirs, there are parts por children also; and there are a lot of subjects for the plays: mithological, romance, comedy, tragedies and also contemporary like "Brockeback mountain" (yes, like the film).

The teathers in which the operas are presented are amazing like the Palace of the Fine Arts in Mexico City or the Sidney Opera House, and as a bucket list I want to go to every one and attend to an opera. But also, we can go to a cinema (cinepolis or cinemex) and watch live transmision from The Metropolitan Opera House or The Royal Opera House on saturdays at noon. 

So, I,m glad that you read all of this and hoping that you could give to Opera a chance...